We are so sorry for this loss
To our fellow grieving parents
We are so sorry for this loss, your child is beautiful, your family is larger, you are a mother or father and you forever have that child, even though you will not touch them or hold them.
You are in our prayers.
Know this:
-If you miscarry your child (less then 20 weeks gestation) at the hospital you have the right to ask for the remains of your baby. Sometimes you can take your baby right away, sometimes you have a wait.
-You have the right to ask for your baby’s remains if you delivered your baby (greater than 20 weeks gestation) at the hospital, you may need to contact a funeral home as your baby's remains will likely be taken to a funeral home.
-If you miscarry at home and feel comfortable to collect the remains of your child, there are links below to assist you.
-If you have the remains of your baby, you can bury your baby in a cemetery where you wish. It is an option to bury your baby at the foot of loved one's casket, or to purchase a plot for your baby. However, you are welcome to bury your baby in the area that is set aside for Lily's Hope.
All of this is hard to deal with and your emotions can run deep and wide. Here are some resources that can help you through the different processes:
“Hope is not naive, nor is it denial. It is also not simply an attitude or emotional response – it runs far deeper than that. Hope acknowledges and recognizes the reality of a circumstance and experience. Hope does not skirt the hard and the difficult, but rather hope is able to pierce through the obscuring and confusing difficulties to see redemption and life. Hope in grief enables bereaved parents to escape the oppressiveness of grief and liberates them to embrace grief as a loving act toward their child. Hope mends brokenness and leads to the clarity of faith which illumines the darkness of grief. This light in turn points to the love of the Risen Christ that fills the aching emptiness left in death’s wake. It is love which is stronger than death and conquers it.
The death of a child shatters lives. Hope mends brokenness. The bones in the broad valley were made whole again by a proclamation of hope. Hope works because by its very nature it makes present the thing which is hoped for. In the aftermath of the death of a child and the grief that follows, hope makes present the healing and restoration to life that all bereaved parents long for. True, it does not bring back the child who died, but neither does remaining in the dark pit of grief. It is in living which one can best remember and be closest to the child who was lost.
In what and who do we have our hope, in order that we might be brought from death back to life? There are many things that may help during grief, but ultimately the only solution to death and to grief is the Resurrection of Jesus Christ. Friends, do not let your hearts be troubled (John 14:1)! We have a God who has endured death and conquered it. He neither fears death nor grief, but is intimately present at every moment to heal, console, and restore us back to life!”